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After trying out online-dating almost two years, I was ready to quit. But last fall God prompted me to give it one more go. Shortly after, I was matched with a name 1,500 miles away from me. His name was Joshua. We began texting every day and soon began to Skype several times a week. Lately we’ve been Skyping up to 20 hours every week! We are both pretty sure we’ve found ‘the one” but we needed to meet in person to be certain. 

A few days ago Joshua flew into Missouri and we leap into each others arms for the first time. It was magical, to say the least. Everything we have hoped about each other has been confirmed through our in-person time together. Tonight Joshua officially asked me to be his girlfriend and we made our relationship which has so far been a secret, public.

We are both over-the-moon excited to continue to grow our relationship over the next few months until I fly out to OR to meet his family in June. I’ll be sharing updates, so stay tuned! Meanwhile, here’s what I shared tonight on my Facebook as we made our relationship public. 🙂

I prayed for you for years, though I didn’t know your name — and yet, I still feared I would never find you. 

Joshua, you are everything I could have asked for, hoped for, prayed for, and dreamed of.  My world is better place since you came along. Love you Handsome!! ?

? “I’ll tell the world, I’ll sing a song
It’s a better place since you came along
Your touch is sunlight through the trees
Your kisses are the ocean breeze
Everything’s alright when you’re with me
And ah ah ah ah ah, you’re my favorite thing
Ah ah ah ah ah, all the love that you bring
But it feels like I’ve opened my eyes again
And the colors are golden and bright again
There’s a song in my heart, I feel like I belong
It’s a better place since you came along”? 



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About the Author

Emily Elizabeth Anderson is a Christian blogger and rising activist for people who have experienced abuse within a Christian environment.

After growing up in a fundamentalist cult for 23 years and experiencing childhood domestic violence, Emily began her journey to recovery in 2015 and eventually found Jesus to be her ultimate healer. She soon turned her passion for writing into a blog and her story has since been featured on several media outlets including NPR.

She married her best friend, Joshua, in 2020 and together they are passionate about educating on the realities of trauma survival and recovery, as well as supporting survivors they meet through their online community.

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