Let's Talk About Purity Culture

Can we talk about the negative effects of Purity Culture for a bit? 
As a recently married woman who grew up in the height of the modern Purity Movement and choose to remain a virgin until marriage, I am beginning to see even more reasons why this culture and its teachings are SO SO dangerous.
Here are just two core..
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Why Am I Still a Christian?

A commenter told me yesterday, “It’s amazing you still have faith.” 
My answer to her? “Jesus. It’s allllllll Jesus.”
In the recent years that I have been studying the dangers of Legalistic Christianity, I have seen the many, many heartbreaking consequences. 
Most common is the abuse of power. The sect of Patriarchal Christianity is a favorite among abusers, for it ultimately gives them...
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My Story of Sexual Assault

Today I’d like to share a highly vulnerable story with you in the hopes of getting one very important message across:  You are NEVER at fault for your sexual assault.  EVER.
Shortly before I met my husband, I met another man through online dating. He was from out of state and so the first few months of our relationship were solely long-distance. After countless phone calls...
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An Apology to Fellow Survivors

For this week's book of my #52in2021 challenge, I wanted to share an excerpt from a new memoir I happened upon last week written by cult survivor Charity Rissler titled “Where the Willow Weeps: The Inside Story of Growing Up in a Cult, and how I Found Freedom in Christ”.

I’d never heard of this cult called “The Message”, but the author described it as a fundamentalist cult, so I knew it would be similar to the cult I grew up in... 
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One Year Ago Today,,,

Wow. What a memory. This plane ride marked the beginning of the most challenging and beautiful week of my life. I wasn’t allowed to publicly reveal my true reason for going to Chicago until several...
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The #52in2021 Challenge

As I've been pondering my goals and plans for 2021, I've realized one of my biggest desires this year is to read more books. And I mean a LOT more books. Fifty-two, to be precise. Yep, I'm creating a little challenge for myself this year and I'm calling it...
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Year Wrap Up...We Survived 2020!

I remember feeling the excitement of the beginning of the year saying “new decade, new life” just like everyone else. 
But then, just like everyone else, this year turned out nothing like what I expected.
Here are some of the challenges my husband Joshua and I had to face...
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2021: The Year of Nourishment

For the past few years I’ve picked a word for the year. It’s a way of laying out a focus for the entire year — something I can reflect on each day as I do life. 
I always pray about it and God always brings the word to my mind. This week He brought me my word: NOURISHMENT...
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A New Name!

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.”
I have found the famous quote by William Shakespeare to not always be quite accurate. 
A name can hold so much power. It can fill you with pride of your heritage or drag you down with the weight of the memories of it.
For years now I have dreamed...
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The Modest Files Podcast -- Part Two

Part Two of my interview with The Modesty Files podcast is live! 
In part one I explained how I got involved with my cult and my personal experience with the cult leader, Bill Gothard.
In this final episode things gets a bit more raw. I briefly explain how I got involved in a lawsuit against Gothard, how I found my way...
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