Freedom Day 2020

Five years ago today, I began my journey out of a cult. 
I walked into a counselors office for the first time in my life and asked for help. 
I didn’t fully understand what kind of trauma I had endured; after all, it was my “normal”. 
I began the incredibly hard work of facing the reality of my trauma. I got angry. I grieved. I accepted. I healed. 
I then began to deconstruct everything I had been taught about God. Was He a God who only loved me if I did...
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Our Day in Court -- One Year Later

One year ago today seven courageous women said “no more”. 
No more would we be silenced.  
No more would we remain victims.  
No one would we stuff away the past.  
NO MORE. 
On that cold, bright morning in a Chicago courtroom we faced our demons.  We faced our ex-cult leader, our past, our old chains...

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Fellow Lawsuit Plaintiff Speaks Out

What’s in a name?  More than I ever knew...
Lauren was my hotel roommate last January when our former cult leader to us and our fellow plaintiffs to trial.  
I watched her sassy, confident personality shine as she took the witness stand and seemed to almost breathe fire as the defense attorney attempted, in vain, to tear her apart.  
Hours later, our shaking hands were tightly joined as the judge, who held our fate in his own hands, laid out his final ruling...
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I Won't Be Speechless

“You’re dishonoring him.” “Why can’t you keep the past in the past?” “You’re bitter.”
These are all words that have been said to me since publicly naming my abuser.  I try to push the words out of my mind, but they hurt.  After 16 years of silence, I have finally found my voice...
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The Power of Changing a Tire

Yesterday I blew out a tire on the highway and decided that instead of calling for roadside assistance, I would figure it out on my own.  I may not have known how a jack worked, but that didn’t mean I couldn’t learn.  After watching a couple of YouTube tutorials, I hiked up my dress, knelt down in my stilettos...
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Fierce Woman

Today I discovered I am a fierce woman.

In therapy today I came face to face with another lie that I had been believing — the lie that my unwillingness to submit to an abusive, toxic relationship several years ago was actually an “ungodly” response on my part. I shouldn’t have fought back. I shouldn’t have been so stubborn. I should have submitted...

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