Let's Talk About Purity Culture

Can we talk about the negative effects of Purity Culture for a bit? 
As a recently married woman who grew up in the height of the modern Purity Movement and choose to remain a virgin until marriage, I am beginning to see even more reasons why this culture and its teachings are SO SO dangerous.
Here are just two core..
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Why I Believing in Dressing "Modest" Anymore

One of the most healing pieces in my journey out of the cult was becoming a member of a few online cult survivor groups. While searching through one of those groups today, I found an old post of mine from May 2019. I LOVE IT!  
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The Purity Movement Broke Me

The purity movement broke me.
 
For the last twenty-four hours the shocking news has been rippling through the evangelical and exvangelical communities:  Joshua Harris, the author who essentially birthed the modern-day purity and courtship movements, announced yesterday that he is separating from his wife.  
 
Harris’s first book, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”, which started a veritable tsunami of purity reform in the 21st century evangelical world...
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The Power of Vulnerability

Brene Brown says that “Vulnerability is not about winning.  It’s not about losing.  It’s having the courage to show up — when you can’t control the outcome.”
Can I be real with you?  Romantic relationships scare the living daylights out of me.  Like, seriously. 
Why is that?  Well, here are a few things I was taught in my #cult growing up...
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National Denim Day

I grew up in a culture where women only wore long skirts.  If that’s your personal preference, and long skirts float your boat, than by all means, go for it!  But if you were taught, as I was, that long skirts protected you from abuse, or that a woman wearing jeans is just asking to be assaulted, then that’s dead wrong...
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