My Story of Sexual Assault

Today I’d like to share a highly vulnerable story with you in the hopes of getting one very important message across:  You are NEVER at fault for your sexual assault.  EVER.
Shortly before I met my husband, I met another man through online dating. He was from out of state and so the first few months of our relationship were solely long-distance. After countless phone calls...
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Called To Peace Ministries

Living in a marriage with domestic violence is terrifying; wondering how to protect your children is even more frightening. Many women choose to stay, believing that it’s better to attempt to hold on the marriage for the sake of the children. They believe the stress of divorce would be worse.  
That is usually not the case, however...
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When Victims Take The Blame

My heart has been heavy this week. In February 2019 during a live interview with NRP, I took a public stand against a wolf in my family and community. Over a year and one half later, I am *still* being attacked and ostracized by some people for “trash talking” this individual.  
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The Darkest Nights

Last night I was once again hunted by dreams of some of the darkest evil that exists in this world.  One lasting affect some sexual abuse survivors often endure is having their trauma manifest in horrific nightmares.  
After what seemed like an eternity, my screams at last woke me and I lay in bed shaking and hyperventilating.  I was terrified to fall back asleep so I grabbed my Jesus Calling and turned on some worship music and listened until the heaviness in my eyes finally overcame my fears and I drifted back to sleep.
This morning I have felt...
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Just Say No?

To the people who say, “Why don’t women just say no?” or “Just report it” or even “Workplace sexual harassment doesn’t exist anymore”, I have a few words for you. 
I am a full time Uber driver.  Being a female driver definitely puts me in the minority.  Even though this is my space, my car, my property — I am still violated at times.  
I do what I can to protect myself. 
I keep an icepick within reach of me at all times.  I bring my golden retriever service dog with me at all times...
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I Won't Be Speechless

“You’re dishonoring him.” “Why can’t you keep the past in the past?” “You’re bitter.”
These are all words that have been said to me since publicly naming my abuser.  I try to push the words out of my mind, but they hurt.  After 16 years of silence, I have finally found my voice...
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Two Trees

Today I’d like to publish the first draft copy of one of the chapters in my upcoming book, Scandalous Grace. This is a very sensitive chapter; it details the day when I was assaulted by my father when I was 12 years old and how over a decade later, I returned to the very spot where it occurred and I asked God the very raw and real question: “why?”. His answer surprised me, to say the least...

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