Dating Long Distance

Long-distance dating is HARD, no question about it.  But when Josh and I entered this relationship we committed to one another that we would give 100% effort to keeping the romance alive, even while 1,500 miles apart. 
One way we do that is with unique...
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End of Year Wrap Up -- The Year Of Gratitude

The Year of Gratitude 
New Years Eve 2009 I was approaching deaths door step due to a Crohn’s flare and was being prepped for emergency surgery.
Tonight I am toasting in the New Year with the love of my life. 🥰
When I choose “Gratitude” for my word of 2019 it was because I wanted to intentionally focus on what I could be grateful for in my life currently.  I felt too discontented and too focused on my dreams
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Freedom Day 2019

Four years ago today I took my first step away from the cult that had held me prisoner for most of my life.  I had no idea what I was doing.  I had no idea what was normal.  I had no idea the lies I was believing and living.  I didn’t know what I didn’t know.  
Stepping away was hell.  Up until that day the cult had been my veiled sanctuary; a safe bubble where I knew exactly what was expected of me and what I needed to do in order to gain my community’s approval. 
What I learned...
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The Power of $3

What can $3 do?
The last month my fellow plaintiffs and I have been raising funds for our continued court battle with our former cult leader.  Even though we walked away from the lawsuit in 2018, he decided he wanted revenge and sought sanctions against us.  The battle continues as he is now appealing the ruling the judge made earlier this year that the plaintiffs were “highly credible” and that our lawsuit was valid...
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What Is Spiritual Leadership?

What Is Spiritual Leadership?
Today my mom totaled her car in an accident.  And I was reminded just how blessed I am. 💗
While I was Ubering this afternoon I received a text from my mom saying that she had just totaled her van and asked if either I or Josh would come and help her.  My heart stopped for a minute because she didn’t state whether or not she’d been injured...

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Lawsuit Update: Appellate Court

October 20th, 2015.  
Yesterday was the four year anniversary of the initial filing of the lawsuit against my former cult leader.  
Four years.  Who knew one’s life could completely change in just four short years?  Today I sit back in awe of everything I and my fellow plaintiffs have walked through and how each of us has grown.  I’m so proud of my fellow warriors and so incredibly grateful for their support...
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What Is A Girl Worth?

Never in my life have I read a more impactful book.
After many of my fellow plaintiffs had read and recommended this book to me after its release in September, I finally downloaded the audio version this week and began to listen.  I was not prepared for how it would affect me.
The first day after listening to the first couple of hours, I became very ill and eventually vomited from the overwhelming triggers and grief.  Each day after that, as I continued to listen...
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I Have A Disability

I have a disability.
There, I said it.  For the first time in my life. 
Crohn’s disease is legally classified as a disability in the U.S according to the SSA.  Yet all my life people have told me I should never label myself.  “Words have power”, they said.  “If you claim to be healthy and healed you will be. If you claim to be sick you always will be.”  
But what I’m realizing now is that calling Crohn’s a disability is not a self-prophesying curse for myself, but rather it is simply...
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When You Just Can't Forget...

I feel restless today. 
I’m itching to be somewhere where I’m not yet.  I’m yearning for a place of healing where I have not yet reached.
The last several weeks I’ve been going through a rough patch in my healing journey.  Some dark memories have been resurfacing a lot lately and I’m getting triggered far more often than normal.  
It’s annoying.  It’s frustrating.  It’s painful.  
I’ve said it over and over for a month now: 
“I just wish I could forget.”
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Lawsuit Update -- Year Four

I’m now about to enter year four of my legal battle with my former cult leader, Bill Gothard. He is currently appealing the massive victory my fellow plaintiffs and I were bestowed by a very honorable judge last January in a Chicago courtroom.  While we continue...
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