My Story of Sexual Assault

Today I’d like to share a highly vulnerable story with you in the hopes of getting one very important message across:  You are NEVER at fault for your sexual assault.  EVER.
Shortly before I met my husband, I met another man through online dating. He was from out of state and so the first few months of our relationship were solely long-distance. After countless phone calls...
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You Can't Always Choose How You Respond to Trauma

Why are victims told they can control how their body responds to stress? Why is the burden put on them? The four involuntary responses to stress, Flight, Fight, Freeze, and Fawn, are just that —involuntary. They are *God-given* response you were created with to keep you alive in a life-threatening situation...
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When The Triggers Don't Stop

I’m currently reading a new book released just this past week, “Woman Rising: A True Story” by Julia McCoy.
This memoir is the incredibly raw and vulnerable depiction of the horrific abuse the daughter of a cult leader endured throughout her childhood, and then how, as a young woman, she made her escape in the middle of the night, and eventually built a new life for herself.  
I’m only a few chapters in, but reading this woman courageously recall the stories of the pain her father inflicted on her has already brought up...
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I Have A Disability

I have a disability.
There, I said it.  For the first time in my life. 
Crohn’s disease is legally classified as a disability in the U.S according to the SSA.  Yet all my life people have told me I should never label myself.  “Words have power”, they said.  “If you claim to be healthy and healed you will be. If you claim to be sick you always will be.”  
But what I’m realizing now is that calling Crohn’s a disability is not a self-prophesying curse for myself, but rather it is simply...
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When You Just Can't Forget...

I feel restless today. 
I’m itching to be somewhere where I’m not yet.  I’m yearning for a place of healing where I have not yet reached.
The last several weeks I’ve been going through a rough patch in my healing journey.  Some dark memories have been resurfacing a lot lately and I’m getting triggered far more often than normal.  
It’s annoying.  It’s frustrating.  It’s painful.  
I’ve said it over and over for a month now: 
“I just wish I could forget.”
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The Nights of a PTSD Survivor

One of the common after-effects of being an abuse survivor is that you may be haunted by terrifyingly vivid nightmares that bring back unpleasant and unfortunately familiar emotions. 
Such dreams are a regular occurrence for me, and last night I found myself quite disturbed by a new dream. 
The dream was set in my childhood home...
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