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My Story of Sexual Assault

Today I’d like to share a highly vulnerable story with you in the hopes of getting one very important message across: You are NEVER at fault for your sexual assault. EVER. Shortly before I met my husband, I met another man through online dating. He was from out of...

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The Darkest Nights

Last night I was once again hunted by dreams of some of the darkest evil that exists in this world. One lasting affect some sexual abuse survivors often endure is having their trauma manifest in horrific nightmares. After what seemed like an eternity, my screams at...

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The High Cost of Speaking Out

One year ago today I gathered every ounce of courage I had and did something that would forever change my writing and public story. I went live on NPR and for the very first time, publicly named my second sexual abuser — my father. Until that day I had been very open...

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Just Say No?

To the people who say, “Why don’t women just say no?” or “Just report it” or even “Workplace sexual harassment doesn’t exist anymore”, I have a few words for you. I am a full time Uber driver. Being a female driver definitely puts me in the minority. Even though this...

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What Is A Girl Worth?

Never in my life have I read a more impactful book. After many of my fellow plaintiffs had read and recommended this book to me after its release in September, I finally downloaded the audio version this week and began to listen. I was not prepared for how it would...

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When You Just Can’t Forget…

I feel restless today. I’m itching to be somewhere where I’m not yet. I’m yearning for a place of healing where I have not yet reached. The last several weeks I’ve been going through a rough patch in my healing journey. Some dark memories have been resurfacing a lot...

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Lawsuit Update — Year Four

Today my friend Rachael Denhollander shared this quote on her Facebook page. The cost, emotional and physical, to see this through has been greater than many will ever know. But I did it because it was right. No matter the cost, it was right. ~ Rachael Denhollander It...

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I Walked Away from Church — But Not Jesus

Shorty after leaving the cult, I took a break from church. I was so tired of the abuse of authority that I’d experienced most of my church-going life; I needed a break from it all. I walked away from going to church, but not from my faith. While I do believe being a...

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Emotional Abuse is Physical Abuse

Emotional abuse IS physical abuse. I was dying for most of my teenage years. I mean literally, in a hospital, 73 pounds, not enough blood running through my veins, dying. When I was 13 years old I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. The doctor said it was the worst...

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I Won’t Be Speechless

“You’re dishonoring him.” “Why can’t you keep the past in the past?” “You’re bitter.” “It’s not appropriate to speak of it publicly; this is a private matter.” “Why would you want to shame yourself?” These are all words that have been said to me since publicly naming...

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