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Let’s Talk About Purity Culture

Can we talk about the negative effects of Purity Culture for a bit? As a recently married woman who grew up in the height of the modern Purity Movement and choose to remain a virgin until marriage, I am beginning to see even more reasons why this culture and its...

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Is God Misogynistic?

A 16-yr-old created this art project for high school. It had to be made out of a book and relevant to the book. She chose the Bible, and made this piece as a commentary on how it has been used to persecute women. As a survivor of a fundamentalist cult and now an...

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Freedom Day 2020

Freedom Day 2020 Five years ago today, I began my journey out of a cult. I walked into a counselors office for the first time in my life and asked for help. I didn’t fully understand what kind of trauma I had endured; after all, it was my “normal.” I began the...

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The Modesty Files: A New Podcast on Toxic Fundamentalism

I woke up just a touch nervous today. This morning a podcast episode has been released where I talk quite frankly about the messy details of my trauma story. A few months ago I received an email from a group of three sisters who run a new podcast called The Modesty...

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The Power of Changing a Tire

I did something tonight that made me feel invincible: I fixed my own vacuum. This, coming only two days after I blew out a tire on the highway and decided that instead of calling for roadside assistance, I would figure it out on my own.  I may not have known how a...

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National Denim Day

National Denim Day

“As a part of Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month, Denim Day encourages wearing jeans as an outward expression for sexual assault survivors and as a visible protest against the myths and misconceptions surrounding the crime of sexual assault. Denim day...

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Umbrella of Authority or Abuse?

Today one of my FB friends posted this umbrella picture on the left. It’s not the first time I’ve seen this graphic, in fact, I usually see it every month or so. On one hand, it looks innocent enough. It’s dripping in Christianese and it seems to support a...

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Coming Out of A Cult: The Honest Truth

Some people ask me what it’s like coming out of a cult. Well, here’s the honest truth: One day you feel completely empowered. You are cruising down the highway with your freedom songs blasting away, singing your heart out, and feeling invincible. The next morning you...

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Telling My Story

Ever since I announced on my Social Media that I am writing a book about my #cult and #metoo story, I’ve received a lot of criticism. I’ve been told that I must not really be free, or that I haven’t really forgiven, or else I wouldn’t be so stuck in the past. But...

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Fierce Woman

Fierce Woman

Today I discovered I am a fierce woman. In therapy today I came face to face with another lie that I had been believing — the lie that my unwillingness to submit to an abusive, toxic relationship several years ago was actually an “ungodly” response on my part. I...

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