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Freedom Day 2020

Freedom Day 2020 Five years ago today, I began my journey out of a cult. I walked into a counselors office for the first time in my life and asked for help. I didn’t fully understand what kind of trauma I had endured; after all, it was my “normal.” I began the...

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The Modesty Files: A New Podcast on Toxic Fundamentalism

I woke up just a touch nervous today. This morning a podcast episode has been released where I talk quite frankly about the messy details of my trauma story. A few months ago I received an email from a group of three sisters who run a new podcast called The Modesty...

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Finding Hope in Unconditional Love

“Your past is too much baggage.” It was one of the most hurtful things someone has ever said to me. We had been dating for almost three months and it was a whirlwind relationship with a bond growing fast. He appeared to be everything I wanted: he was a committed...

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“Why Didn’t You Walk Away?”

As I have started sharing my story with more and more people of how I was raised in a cult and eventually finding my way out, I inevitably get asked quite a few follow-up questions. One of the most common questions I receive, after finding out that my cult did not...

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Emotional Abuse is Physical Abuse

Emotional abuse IS physical abuse. I was dying for most of my teenage years. I mean literally, in a hospital, 73 pounds, not enough blood running through my veins, dying. When I was 13 years old I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. The doctor said it was the worst...

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What is Spiritual Abuse?

Spiritual abuse is quickly becoming a buzz word nowadays, but I think few people realize just how prevalent it can be. Let’s look at a covert example of spiritual abuse I recently encountered, shall we? As I was reading the first chapter of James this morning, I came...

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I Won’t Be Speechless

“You’re dishonoring him.” “Why can’t you keep the past in the past?” “You’re bitter.” “It’s not appropriate to speak of it publicly; this is a private matter.” “Why would you want to shame yourself?” These are all words that have been said to me since publicly naming...

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The Power of Vulnerability

Brene Brown says that “Vulnerability is not about winning. It’s not about losing. It’s having the courage to show up — when you can’t control the outcome.” Can I be real with you? Romantic relationships scare the living daylights out of me. Like, seriously. Why is...

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