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What Is Spiritual Leadership?

by | Nov 1, 2019 | Relationships, The Year of Gratitude, This Anderson Life

Today my mom totaled her car in an accident. And I was reminded just how blessed I am. ?

While I was Ubering this afternoon I received a text from my mom saying that she had just totaled her van and asked if either I or Josh would come and help her. My heart stopped for a minute because she didn’t state whether or not she’d been injured.

I was quite a ways from my mom so I immediately called Josh who was on his way home from work and asked if he would go to my mom. Without hesitation he said “absolutely” and whipped around on the highway to find her. Meanwhile I was stuck in parking-lot rush hour trying to get to her.

When I finally arrived I saw my mom was completely unscathed (praise the Lord!!!) and she was emptying out her car in preparation for her van to be hauled off. I hugged her tight as my adrenaline rush slowly started to dissipate. Josh saw my distress and put his hand on my back and tried to comfort me and tell me that everything was OK. When I started to voice my fear over certain issues he continued to encourage me. He then loaded all my mom’s things into his car and took her home so I could go back to work.

When he dropped her off he texted me again to remind me that my mom was OK and that God would take care of my mom and provide for her in all the ways she needs; we just needed to trust Him. Currently I’m watching him search for a new car for my mom on his computer. I remember hearing a radio broadcast by Pastor Gary Smalley last year and him saying that spiritual leadership isn’t often what we think it should look like. It isn’t usually about hosting Bible studies and preaching sermons.

Real spiritual leadership looks like what Josh did for me today: being supportive and encouraging, being willing to serve without question, going the extra mile, and gently pointing me back to Christ to calm my worried spirit. Spiritual leadership is about steadfast love. It’s about providing and honoring. It’s about serving. It’s about loving.

And so, as I thank God tonight, I’m thanking Him not only for protecting my mother from harm today, but also for giving me such a loving, gentle, encouraging man to walk by my side. ?



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About the Author

Emily Elizabeth Anderson is a Christian blogger and rising activist for people who have experienced abuse within a Christian environment.

After growing up in a fundamentalist cult for 23 years and experiencing childhood domestic violence, Emily began her journey to recovery in 2015 and eventually found Jesus to be her ultimate healer. She soon turned her passion for writing into a blog and her story has since been featured on several media outlets including NPR.

She married her best friend, Joshua, in 2020 and together they are passionate about educating on the realities of trauma survival and recovery, as well as supporting survivors they meet through their online community.

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