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Happy Birthday to the Love of my life!! ?

I’m so grateful for this man who stayed by my side all last night and who offered to work from home today so he could care for me as I recover from my stem cell transplant. I am in a lot of pain and I’m unable to walk and can barely move so he’s having to carry me around, fetch items for me, massage my sore knees, and even help change my bandages. What a way to spend a birthday!!

I think most women look for a man who will woo them will spontaneous gifts and romantic dates, but knowing my history of chronic illness and surviving abuse, I decided to look for something more meaningful.

I looked for a man who would be willing to walk through earthly hell with me. I looked for one who would be eager to jump in and assist me in anything I asked without always questioning. I looked for a someone who wouldn’t complain about the expenses, but who would instead be willing to embrace the financial challenge.

As difficult and grievous as it has been to have to endure a serious Crohn’s flare during this special time of dating and planning our future together, I’m so grateful for the tested and proven assurance I now have that this man will indeed stand beside me in the future— for better or for worse. We are truly walking into the future with eyes wide open.

True love is never blind. True love sees everything — the beautiful, the ugly, the raw, and the real — and then makes the valiant choice to give. ?



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About the Author

Emily Elizabeth Anderson is a Christian blogger and rising activist for people who have experienced abuse within a Christian environment.

After growing up in a fundamentalist cult for 23 years and experiencing childhood domestic violence, Emily began her journey to recovery in 2015 and eventually found Jesus to be her ultimate healer. She soon turned her passion for writing into a blog and her story has since been featured on several media outlets including NPR.

She married her best friend, Joshua, in 2020 and together they are passionate about educating on the realities of trauma survival and recovery, as well as supporting survivors they meet through their online community.

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